I’m Dead. Now What?
This isn’t about what happens to us after we die. That great mystery is, as yet, unknown. This is about what we leave behind for our loved ones. Are they left to deal with a mountain of paperwork and questions, along with their grief? Or can they take a deep breath,...
Understanding the Window of Tolerance in Trauma-Informed Care
The “window of tolerance” is a concept introduced by Dr. Dan Siegel that refers to the optimal zone of arousal in which a person can function effectively and respond to stress in a regulated way. When individuals are within their window of tolerance, they...
Navigating My Sexuality in a Straight Marriage
When I married my partner, I was deeply in love and felt certain about the life we were building together. We were what society would call a “straight couple,” and our marriage reflected that definition. Yet, as the years passed, I began to notice feelings and...
What Is Stimming and How Can It Help Neurodivergent People?
Often neurodivergent clients engage in behaviours known as “stimming.” Stimming, short for self-stimulatory behaviour, can include a wide range of actions like hand-flapping, rocking, spinning, or repeating words and sounds. While these behaviours are most commonly...
7 Things You Did Not Know About Anxiety
I often work with clients who struggle with anxiety, a common but often misunderstood condition. While many people are aware of anxiety’s more obvious symptoms, there are several lesser-known aspects that can significantly affect one’s life. Here are seven things you...
Five Ways to Wellbeing
I often talk about the importance of maintaining mental wellbeing, not just in response to challenges, but as a proactive approach to life. The Five Ways to Wellbeing, developed by research in the field of positive psychology, offer practical steps we can all take to...
Understanding The Narcissist’s Prayer: A Tool for Insight and Healing
In the field of psychotherapy, one of the most challenging and complex dynamics we often encounter is the impact of narcissistic abuse. Such experiences can profoundly affect the lives of those involved, often leaving behind a trail of confusion, self-doubt, and...
Understanding Domestic Abuse: The Three-Planet Model
I have encountered numerous cases where domestic abuse is misunderstood, not only by those directly involved but also by the systems designed to help. To bridge this gap in understanding, I often refer to what is known as the “Three-Planet Model of Domestic Abuse.”...
What Is the Difference Between a Psychotherapist and a Counsellor?
When clients come to me for help, they often ask, “What is the difference between a psychotherapist and a counsellor?” It’s a common question, and the distinction can be quite important when seeking the right support. Both professionals are trained to help people...
Does the TV series ‘The Mentalist’ have anything to say about mental health?
A bit of fun this month. “The Mentalist,” a popular TV series that aired from 2008 to 2015, primarily focused on crime-solving and psychological manipulation. However, several aspects of the show touch on themes related to mental health, even if they are not...Recent Posts
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