JD Psychotherapy
  • About Me
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Mental Health
  • LGBTQ+
  • Trauma
  • ADHD
  • The Archive
Select Page
ADHD and Subscriptions – Why We Don’t Cancel and How to Take Control

ADHD and Subscriptions – Why We Don’t Cancel and How to Take Control

by John Dray | 14th Nov 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Psychotherapist Resources

I often find myself unintentionally collecting subscriptions — streaming platforms, productivity apps, fitness memberships, software trials, and more. I may start with enthusiasm but soon forget to cancel, even when no longer using them. This pattern can be...
Body Doubling for ADHD – Accountability and Focus Through Connection

Body Doubling for ADHD – Accountability and Focus Through Connection

by John Dray | 8th Nov 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Psychotherapist Resources

For many people with ADHD, getting started can be the hardest part. Even when motivation is high, tasks can remain untouched, delayed by overwhelm, distraction, or inertia. One increasingly popular technique to break this cycle is body doubling: working alongside...
What Are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Self-Identifying as ADHD

What Are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Self-Identifying as ADHD

by John Dray | 2nd Nov 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Mental Health Tips

Self-identifying as having Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) means recognising in yourself a pattern of symptoms that seems to fit ADHD and using that label personally—often before (or instead of) a formal clinical diagnosis. In the UK, formal diagnosis...
Another Thought about Why We Put Things Off

Another Thought about Why We Put Things Off

by John Dray | 25th Oct 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Mental Health Tips

Often when I really need to get something done I find that I don’t. Having spoken with many people, I find that there is a familiar set of circumstances: the creeping delay, the mental circling, the sudden urge to tidy the kitchen instead of starting the task that...
Staying Safe When Working Alone As A Psychotherapist

Staying Safe When Working Alone As A Psychotherapist

by John Dray | 17th Oct 2025 | Psychotherapist Resources

I was recently discussing with a colleague some new offices that they are considering. Part of the scenario was that they are hoping to offer late evening, face to face sessions. This got me thinking about the potential dangers of working alone. So I put together some...
Therapy for the Overwhelmed – How to Begin When Everything Feels Too Much

Therapy for the Overwhelmed – How to Begin When Everything Feels Too Much

by John Dray | 10th Oct 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Mental Health Tips, Psychotherapist Resources

When life feels unmanageable, even the thought of starting therapy can seem overwhelming. It can feel like justonemorething on top of a heap of things that are not getting done. So is not unusual for people to delay seeking help because they feel stuck in a cycle of...
Is the Flow State a Form of Dissociation?

Is the Flow State a Form of Dissociation?

by John Dray | 3rd Oct 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles

The flow state, described by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi as “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake,” is often hailed as the pinnacle of human productivity and creativity. But from a psychotherapeutic perspective, it prompts a deeper question: is flow a...
Developments in Social GRRRAAACCEEESSS – Visible–Invisible and Voiced–Unvoiced A Balanced Review

Developments in Social GRRRAAACCEEESSS – Visible–Invisible and Voiced–Unvoiced A Balanced Review

by John Dray | 26th Sep 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Mental Health Tips, Psychotherapist Resources

John Burnham’s chapter Developments in Social GRRRAAACCEEESSS: visible–invisible and voiced–unvoiced extends the familiar Social GRACES mnemonic (originally with Alison Roper-Hall) and explores how aspects of identity/difference can be visible or invisible and voiced...
Addicted to Anxiety by Owen O’Kane – A Balanced Review

Addicted to Anxiety by Owen O’Kane – A Balanced Review

by John Dray | 22nd Sep 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles, Mental Health Tips, Psychotherapist Resources

Owen O’Kane’s Addicted to Anxiety: How to Break the Habit (2025) proposes that anxiety functions like an addiction. Behaviours and thought patterns that initially feel protective become cyclical habits that reinforce fear and avoidance. His framework is structured...
Is Computer Programming a Form of Dissociation or Avoidance?

Is Computer Programming a Form of Dissociation or Avoidance?

by John Dray | 21st Sep 2025 | Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles

Computer programming is often celebrated for its creativity, logic, and problem-solving elegance. But what happens when our immersion in code becomes so complete that it detaches us from our emotional or relational lives? Could it be that programming is, at times,...
« Older Entries
Next Entries »

Recent Posts

  • A calm watercolour-style image of a small therapy group sitting quietly in a softly lit room.
    Kalsched, Trauma and the Inner World of Therapeutic Groups
    by John Dray
    August 24, 2026
  • A calm watercolour illustration of a person holding a shield that has now become heavy, with warm muted tones suggesting protection and cost.
    What If My Coping Strategy Used to Be Brilliant?
    by John Dray
    August 15, 2026
  • A calm watercolour-style image of a person standing near an open doorway, looking thoughtful and self-protective rather than aggressive.
    Why Do I Push Back When Someone Tries to Help? A Gentle Introduction to Transactional Analysis
    by John Dray
    August 8, 2026
  • Watercolour illustration of a person resting in a calm, sensory-considerate room with softly patterned light and space for reflection.
    Do Neurodivergent Brains Function Differently?
    by John Dray
    August 2, 2026
  • A calm watercolour-style image of a person sitting thoughtfully in a quiet room, with a sense of warmth and emotional safety.
    Why Do I Keep Pleasing People? A Gentle Introduction to Transactional Analysis
    by John Dray
    August 1, 2026
Book an Introductory Session

You May Also Like...

A calm watercolour illustration of a person holding a shield that has now become heavy, with warm muted tones suggesting protection and cost.

What If My Coping Strategy Used to Be Brilliant?

Aug 15, 2026

People often come to therapy describing their own behaviour as a problem to be fixed. “I’m too avoidant.” “I...

A calm watercolour illustration of a person gazing quietly at soft blurred colours flowing around them, as if emotions are present yet hard to name.

What If I Cannot Explain What I Feel?

Jul 17, 2026

A common worry about starting therapy is that you will be expected to sit down and say exactly what is wrong in...

A calm watercolour illustration of a person looking slightly aside while warm light falls across their face, suggesting discomfort without distress.

What If Eye Contact Feels Too Intense?

Jul 10, 2026

Often eye contact is treated as a sign of attention, respect and honesty. Therapists are often trained to use it as a...

« Older Entries
Next Entries »
ADHD, ADHD Support, Adult ADHD, Affirmative Therapy, AI Alignment, Anger, Anxiety, Attachment, Attachment Theory, Autism, Autonomy, Book Review, Boredom, Boundaries, Childhood Development, Christmas, Client Empowerment, Climate Grief, Clinical Practice, Coercive Control, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Communication, Coping Strategies, Counselling, Counsellor, Creativity, Defence Mechanisms, Depression, Dissociation, Domestic Abuse, Dream Completion, Dreams, Eco-Anxiety, Ego States, Emotional Healing, Emotional Maturity, Emotional Regulation, Emotional Well-Being, Erskine’s relational needs, Ethical Practice, Ethics, Executive Function, Family Dynamics, Flow State, Gestalt Therapy, GSRD, Holiday Stress, Humanistic Therapy, IFS Therapy, Inclusive Therapy, Insomnia, Internal Family Systems, Intersectionality, Intimate Partner Violence, IPV, LGBTQ History, LGBTQ+, LGBTQ+ Mental Health, LGBTQ+ support, Melanie Klein, Mental Health, Mental Health Support, Mental Well-being, Mindfulness, Neurodivergence, Neurodiversity, Neuroscience, Nightmares, Online Booking, Overwhelm, Parenting, Parts Work, Personal Growth, Pride Month, Psychoanalysis, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Psychotherapy Books, Psychotherapy Techniques, Psychotherapy Theory, PTSD, Relational Patterns, Relational Psychotherapy, Relational Therapy, Relationships, Self Psychology, Self Understanding, Self-Awareness, Self-care, Self-Compassion, Self-Discovery, Self-Reflection, Shame, Sleep, Sleep Hygiene, Somatic Therapy, Stress, Stress Management, Therapeutic Relationship, Therapy, Trans Rights, Transactional Analysis, Trauma, Trauma Healing, Trauma Informed Therapy, Trauma Therapy, Trauma-Informed Care, Trauma-Informed Practice, Wellbeing, Window of Tolerance

Any mental health tips on this site should not be construed as medical advice. 

  • Follow
  • Follow
  • Follow
  • Psychotherapy Agreement
  • GDPR Statement
  • Mental Health Tips
  • Psychotherapist Resources
  • Mental Health and Wellbeing Articles
  • Ethical Statement
  • Cookie Policy (UK)
Manage Consent
To provide the best experiences, we use technologies like cookies to store and/or access device information. Consenting to these technologies will allow us to process data such as browsing behaviour or unique IDs on this site. Not consenting or withdrawing consent, may adversely affect certain features and functions.
Functional Always active
The technical storage or access is strictly necessary for the legitimate purpose of enabling the use of a specific service explicitly requested by the subscriber or user, or for the sole purpose of carrying out the transmission of a communication over an electronic communications network.
Preferences
The technical storage or access is necessary for the legitimate purpose of storing preferences that are not requested by the subscriber or user.
Statistics
The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for statistical purposes. The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for anonymous statistical purposes. Without a subpoena, voluntary compliance on the part of your Internet Service Provider, or additional records from a third party, information stored or retrieved for this purpose alone cannot usually be used to identify you.
Marketing
The technical storage or access is required to create user profiles to send advertising, or to track the user on a website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes.
  • Manage options
  • Manage services
  • Manage {vendor_count} vendors
  • Read more about these purposes
View preferences
  • {title}
  • {title}
  • {title}