I'm Dead. Now What? This isn’t about what happens to us after we die. That great mystery is, as yet, unknown. This is about what we leave behind for our loved ones. Are they left to deal with a mountain of paperwork and questions, along with their grief? Or can they...
The “window of tolerance” is a concept introduced by Dr. Dan Siegel that refers to the optimal zone of arousal in which a person can function effectively and respond to stress in a regulated way. When individuals are within their window of tolerance, they...
Navigating My Sexuality in a Straight Marriage When I married my partner, I was deeply in love and felt certain about the life we were building together. We were what society would call a “straight couple,” and our marriage reflected that definition. Yet, as the years...
What Is Stimming and How Can It Help Neurodivergent People? Often neurodivergent clients engage in behaviours known as “stimming.” Stimming, short for self-stimulatory behaviour, can include a wide range of actions like hand-flapping, rocking, spinning, or repeating...
7 Things You Did Not Know About Anxiety I often work with clients who struggle with anxiety, a common but often misunderstood condition. While many people are aware of anxiety’s more obvious symptoms, there are several lesser-known aspects that can significantly...
Five Ways to Wellbeing I often talk about the importance of maintaining mental wellbeing, not just in response to challenges, but as a proactive approach to life. The Five Ways to Wellbeing, developed by research in the field of positive psychology, offer practical...
Understanding The Narcissist’s Prayer: A Tool for Insight and Healing In the field of psychotherapy, one of the most challenging and complex dynamics we often encounter is the impact of narcissistic abuse. Such experiences can profoundly affect the lives of those...
Understanding Domestic Abuse: The Three-Planet Model I have encountered numerous cases where domestic abuse is misunderstood, not only by those directly involved but also by the systems designed to help. To bridge this gap in understanding, I often refer to what is...
What Is the Difference Between a Psychotherapist and a Counsellor? When clients come to me for help, they often ask, “What is the difference between a psychotherapist and a counsellor?” It’s a common question, and the distinction can be quite important when seeking...