An Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Written by John Dray

I am a trainee psychotherapist working with compassion and affirmation within the LGBTQ+ community.

25th April 2025

An Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)

What Is Internal Family Systems?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a transformative psychotherapeutic approach developed by Dr Richard C. Schwartz in the 1980s. Rooted in systems theory, IFS views the mind as being composed of “parts,” each with its own unique perspectives, emotions, and roles. This model sees these parts as forming an internal system, much like a family, and emphasises the importance of cultivating harmony among them.

At the heart of IFS is the concept of the Self—a calm, compassionate core of every individual that serves as the leader of the inner system. IFS therapy aims to help clients reconnect with their Self and foster a healing relationship with their parts, allowing for profound personal transformation.


The Core Principles of IFS

IFS operates on several foundational principles:

  1. Everyone Has Parts
    Parts are natural aspects of the mind. Each part has its own unique role and purpose.

  2. Parts Are Not the Problem
    Even the parts that seem disruptive or harmful have good intentions, often developed as a response to past experiences or trauma.

  3. The Self Is the Leader
    The Self is the source of compassion, wisdom, and confidence, capable of leading the inner system to balance and healing.

  4. Parts Need Healing, Not Elimination
    The goal isn’t to get rid of parts but to help them heal so they can work in harmony with the Self.


The Roles of Parts in IFS

IFS categorises parts into three main roles:

  1. Exiles
    These parts carry painful emotions, memories, or vulnerabilities often buried or ignored. Exiles are frequently linked to past trauma and need attention and healing.

  2. Managers
    Managers are proactive parts that work to keep exiles suppressed and maintain control over the individual’s behaviour. They often adopt perfectionistic or protective roles.

  3. Firefighters
    Firefighters are reactive parts that act impulsively to distract from or suppress the pain of exiles. They often engage in behaviours that may be seen as self-destructive or avoidant.


The Development of IFS

Dr Richard C. Schwartz, a family therapist, developed IFS while working with clients who struggled to manage conflicting feelings and behaviours. He noticed that these internal conflicts mirrored the dynamics of families and that individuals often had parts of themselves that acted like protective family members. By applying systems theory to the mind, Dr Schwartz created a framework to help individuals understand and harmonise their inner parts.

Over the years, IFS has gained recognition as an evidence-based therapy, with applications in trauma recovery, anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges. Its compassionate and non-pathologising approach has made it a popular choice for therapists and clients alike.


How Does IFS Work in Therapy?

IFS therapy involves developing a relationship with these parts and helping them communicate with the Self. A typical session might include:

  • Identifying Parts
    Clients learn to notice and name their parts without judgement. For example, you might recognise a part that feels anxious and another that acts as an inner critic.

  • Listening to Parts
    Each part is invited to share its concerns, fears, or motivations. This process fosters understanding and reduces internal conflict.

  • Healing Exiles
    With the support of the Self, clients revisit painful memories and provide exiles with the care and compassion they lacked at the time of the trauma.

  • Building Harmony
    The ultimate goal is to create a cooperative relationship between parts, allowing the Self to lead and bringing a sense of peace and balance to your inner world.


Why Choose IFS?

IFS is particularly effective for those dealing with trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges. Its non-pathologising approach recognises that even the most challenging behaviours or emotions have a purpose and can be transformed with understanding and compassion.

By engaging with your parts, IFS allows you to approach inner struggles with curiosity rather than judgement. This approach encourages profound self-discovery and empowers you to heal from within.


Final Thoughts

Internal Family Systems offers a unique and empowering way to approach therapy. Whether you’re navigating past trauma, seeking greater self-understanding, or striving for inner peace, IFS provides a roadmap for healing and harmony.