Often when I really need to get something done I find that I don’t. Having spoken with many people, I find that there is a familiar set of circumstances: the creeping delay, the mental circling, the sudden urge to tidy the kitchen instead of starting the task that...
Emotional Regulation
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Understanding the Window of Tolerance in Trauma Therapy
The concept of the Window of Tolerance, developed by Dr. Dan Siegel, has become an essential framework in trauma-informed psychotherapy. It describes the optimal zone of arousal in which a person can function effectively, think clearly, and engage socially. For those...
The Danger of Relying on the Child Ego State in Transactional Analysis
John Lanchester’s quote in Whoops! about the perils of relying on misleading information provides a compelling analogy for the dangers of being overly dependent on the Child Ego State in Transactional Analysis (TA). ‘You’re worse off relying on misleading information...
The Spectrum of Narcissism: Shame, Rage, and the Value of Healthy Self-Love
Narcissism is sometimes viewed solely through a negative lens—a trait that conjures images of arrogance, self-absorption, and grandiose behaviour. Yet, psychoanalyst Heinz Kohut reminds us that narcissism exists on a spectrum and plays an important role in healthy...
Self-Soothing Techniques for People with ADHD
Living with ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) can be challenging, especially when it comes to managing overwhelming emotions, impulsivity, and restlessness. These symptoms can make it difficult for individuals to regulate their emotions, leading to...
Understanding the Window of Tolerance in Trauma-Informed Care
The “window of tolerance” is a concept introduced by Dr. Dan Siegel that refers to the optimal zone of arousal in which a person can function effectively and respond to stress in a regulated way. When individuals are within their window of tolerance, they...
Navigating the Intersections: Understanding the Link Between ADHD, Trauma, and LGBTQ+ Experiences
I often encounter individuals who navigate complex intersections of identity and mental health challenges. One such intersection is the overlap between Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), experiences of trauma, and identifying as LGBTQ+. This blog aims to...
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